day 3.

This morning the embryologist called at 9:53.

He explained to me that on the third day they like to see the embryos dividing into 7-9 cells, with 8 cells being “perfect”. He said that our embryos have little to no fragmentation which is a very good thing as well.

We have 6 embryos that are in the 7-9 cell range, and we have 1 embryo that is a little behind at 6 cells. The embryologist did tell me that there is a very good chance that 6 cell embryo could catch up though. He even said “I could go check on it after we get off the phone and it could be in the 7-9 cell range”.

Hell yes. I just cannot believe it! 



Here is a chart to show you the stages of Embryo development along with a description of what should be happening.  

I truly credit some of this success to the book “It starts with the egg” by Rebecca Fett. She discusses specific studies that have been done for Diminished Ovarian Reserve women; She then gives you a suggested list of supplements and vitamins to take (all with the approval of your doctor, obviously). I seriously think that all of those have made a huge impact on my embryo quality (also, the fact that we have no Male factor infertility issues what so ever helps a lot).

I started taking the following supplements 4 months before our cycle:

  • 600 mg CoQ10 Ubiquniol
  • 75 mg micronized DHEA
  • Prenatal + DHA
  • 81 mg baby aspirin
  • 400 mcg Folic Acid
  • 500 mg Vitamin C
  • 2000 IU Vitamin D3
  • 3,000 mg Acai berry extract

In the book the author states that DHEA is supposed to do wonders for women with DOR. I spoke with my RE and he had never really read any studies about it, but agreed to let me take it as long as I kept him updated on if I stopped or whatever. I’m pretty sure if this cycle yields ALL good quality embryos, I’m going to buy him the book as a gift 🙂

Now, there is a chance that the eggs all fertilized because we chose to do ICSI instead of regular IVF fertilization.  ICSI is a process where one single good quality sperm is injected into the egg (see below). This is always done for people choosing to do PGS testing (click the link to learn more about PGS testing), and often used when you have Male Factor Infertility as well.


From here, we wait until they call me on Tuesday morning. The embryologist said he would call me before 9 am, just incase we needed to come in for a transfer later that afternoon.

He told me that he recommends that we push to day 5 even if we decided to do a fresh transfer instead of freezing them and transferring in July. I’m really happy that he seems to think they are all good quality; What a great feeling for us! I guess we will see what happens on Tuesday when he calls. If we are looking at only 1-3 being good quality and growing normally, I think we may look at transferring fresh, but if they look good we are going forward with the day 5+6 biopsies. The PGS testing results should take about a week to get back.


Seven! Not a bad number for my shitty ovaries/DOR. I’ll take it. I’m feeling pretty confident that they will be good quality as I’ve been on all kinds of supplements for upward of 4 months leading up to this.


Don’t I just look so awesome in this blue hairnet and hospital gown? 

The anesthesiologist blew the vein in my left arm (thanks) and had to go in my hand. IV’s are the worst part of any procedure in my opinion. You wanna cut my abdomen muscles open to take a child, feel free, but PLEASE GOD get the fucking IV right the first time.

Then, as we were getting in position,  the nurse who has been there since we started seeing Dr.J asked me what my daughters name was. I said “Kenley” and then started crying. She walked closer to me, handed me a tissue and said “I know exactly how you feel. I have been there“. This made me cry harder; I told her I was so sorry she knows this pain.

After she woke me up I think I asked her about it? I vaguely remember bits and pieces of what she said. Her daughters name is Stella. Her cord detached from her placenta. She was stillborn @ 34 weeks. (thank you Shane for the reminders)

She said “we went on to have another baby, and that’s what we are going to do for you“.

I cannot tell you the comfort it brought to me for her to ask about Kenley before the retrieval. I knew that was K’s way of letting me know she was there with me.

So, thank you to the nurse. You may not see it, but you helped me so incredibly much by letting me know my girl was there, and for simply saying her name out loud.

Tomorrow morning we will know how many eggs were mature, and how many fertilized. Here’s hoping everything is A+ quality in there.

My ovaries are sore so I think I’m going to take a nap.

Keep our 7 eggs in your thoughts and send us all the good vibes you can manage.

One last thing. A baby loss momma I met through IG (who lost her Son) sent this to me the other day. I woke up to it and it made my heart skip a beat. Seeing her name and knowing that someone else thought of her and I is what helps heal my heart.

I love you sweet girl.

Thank you for being with me today; I couldn’t have asked for better company.